Envy is a Disease

“A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.” – Proverbs 14:30

Renaissance painter Giotto's depiction of envy.

Renaissance painter Giotto’s depiction of envy.

While not the most violent passion, envy decays the soul more than perhaps any other vice. Envy is not only a longing for what someone else owns (because emulation can be constructive), but a resentment of those who are perceived as superior. Envy is almost always a private enmity, and a particularly shameful and ugly one. Most of us will admit to annoyance, anger, hatred or arrogance before admitting that we are jealous of another person. Admitting to envy is not simply confessing a sin; it is demeaning oneself and accepting inferiority to the resented person. This is nearly unthinkable to us when we have caught the disease. And so it stirs itself within us, choking our hearts and making life unpleasant, often breaking out all at once into hot, unsatisfying anger.

Envy seems most often to come between people who are close. When I was a Mormon missionary for two years, I spent all my time with assigned companions. In some ways missionary companions are more attached than are married couples; whereas spouses usually have separate lives during the day, missionaries do everything together. Feelings of envy arising from relatively mundane situations are intensified by this closeness. A missionary notices if his companion seems better liked by the people being taught. Compliments given to one and not the other can be wounding.  It is easy in these situations to be inclined to sulk, to quietly tear down your companion, or to intentionally act like a poor missionary, hiding one’s imagined inferiority behind obviously feigned incompetence. It is difficult completely to be free of these feelings, and I admit to struggling with them a great deal. The best treatment I found was to pay genuine compliments often to my companion.

Like many social diseases, envy spreads to affect nations and groups. In 1948, at the beginning of the Cold War, Winston Churchill called socialism the “gospel of envy“. While his statement was ideological, he perceived a psychological truth beneath the worldview that was spreading from the Soviet Union to much of the rest of the world. In Marxist theory, politics and history were nothing more than a struggle between rich owners and poor laborers. And it was characterized by its resentments more than its goals: one could be a Marxist without promoting constructive social policies, but one could hardly be a Marxist without hating capitalists (and by extension Western society). The violence that always accompanied socialism and communism burst at least partly out of this materialist envy.

The envy has not gone away, however. Modern economies are not immune; invidious desire drives much of the hyper-consumerism that has hollowed out our civilizational identity. In American politics, both social democrats on the left and populists on the right are afflicted. Hostility in the Middle East cannot be diagnosed simply, but perhaps Israel would attract less hatred if it were as poor as its neighbors, instead of the most prosperous country in the region. And perhaps more fundamentalist hatred would be directed at China, which oppresses Uighur Muslims, if it were the superpower instead of the United States.

In politics as well as everything else, more attention is given to arrogance than envy. Arrogance might even be more common than its jealous twin. But arrogance is more quickly spotted and corrected. It is simpler to humble someone than to compel them to admire without resentment. Only the person afflicted with envy can do anything to heal themselves. I have often found that my accusations of others’ arrogance were more a reflection of the disease of envy that was in my own heart.

Alcohol Laws in 75 Words

The National Post asked for 75-word responses to the question, “Should our alcohol laws be relaxed?” They printed my letter today, along with a number of others. Judging from most of the responses, I missed what the debate was really about: whether alcohol sales should be privatized in Ontario, an issue on which I don’t have much of an opinion. Here’s my letter, and a link to todays’ letters page:

A British medical journal found that no drug causes more societal harm than alcohol, and that most of this harm falls on people other than the user. In Canada, nearly one million people struggle with dependence and alcohol kills thousands, disproportionately young people, yearly. It’s time to require graphic warnings on alcohol labels and restrict alcohol advertising, as in other countries. The reason alcohol laws are looser than for other psychoactive drugs? Politicians use alcohol.

http://fullcomment.nationalpost.com/2013/05/13/monday-letters/

Don’t Just Intend, Predict

Have you ever told yourself you’d get to bed earlier tonight? Eat healthier today? Avoid being negative tomorrow? Of course–and sometimes you fail, as everyone tends to do. Somehow a good intention in a moment of clarity can become distasteful when the time comes to carry it out. It’s 10:30 and easy to watch another episode of TV, you’re tired at work and a chocolate bar is only a dollar, and those negative words beat themselves against your consciousness until you give in and say them.

But it’s even worse than that, at least for me. Not only can I create a goal, for as little as a few hours in the future, and then fail, but I can be certain at the time I’m setting the goal that I’ll succeed–and still fail. While I’m sometimes cynical of myself (which usually leads to giving up completely), normally I really believe that it’ll be different this time.

I’ve gotten some insight into this problem by looking at a different circumstance–the one where it’s someone else’s goal. When a friend or family member tells me an intention of theirs, at which they are certain they’ll succeed, I’m often more skeptical, and don’t give them the credit I would give myself. It’s not that I’m necessarily wrong about other people; psychologists who have examined this sort of thing have found that people are actually very accurate in predicting others’ behavior. The problem is that they’re awful at predicting their own.

Perhaps the deeper problem is that none of us really make the effort of predicting our own behavior at all. I find that while I take into account a great deal of information in guessing the future actions of those around me, my conception of my own future decisions seems to be a function of nothing more than my current intent.

I think my model of myself as a person is broken. I tend to think of myself as an independent agent, whose choices are practically causeless. Rarely do I consider that my behavior is influenced, or even caused, by things outside my control. Furthermore, I tend to assume that I’ll be the same person in a few hours as I am now. In an important sense, I won’t be. My frame of mind, and by extension my actions, will be (usually predictably) different from what they are at the moment of goal-setting. If I step back and look at myself the way I look at everyone else, the things I do become quite predictable. I think most of us are the same way.

The good news is that our predictability does not rob us of our free will. While our predictions about other people aren’t very useful to us, because we can’t control those people, the foresight we apply to ourselves can be used constructively. If our predictions don’t match our intentions, it’s within our power to manipulate ourselves now into doing the right thing in the future.

Predicting also seems to make us act more in the interest of the long-term than the short-term. A web search for “predict yourself” turned this up:

http://www.overcomingbias.com/2011/09/predict-yourself.html

Let’s Save Lives and Modernize Drug Policy (No, not that drug)

Three of the most popular drugs in our society.

There has been a lot of discussion lately about the possibility of decriminalizing or even legalizing marijuana in Canada. Laws in certain European countries and US jurisdictions have recently been relaxed, allowing individuals to grow and use small amounts of the drug. The question of legal marijuana use isn’t an easy one; unlike harder street drugs, marijuana is linked to few deaths, is less addictive than most drugs and legalizing it could possibly reduce drug-related violence. Marijuana is probably the least harmful illegal drug.

Let’s imagine, however, that marijuana was not so innocuous. Let’s think about a hypothetical scenario that will allow us to evaluate current drug policy.

It’s the present day in Canada, but marijuana has been legal as far back as we can remember. And of course it is; nearly everyone uses it. We smoke it at dinner, we take it to parties, we tell our friends stories about it–even politicians and public figures use it. TV and movies reflect the fact that marijuana is the thread that weaves through every social gathering. Restaurants and bars advertise the varieties and preparations they serve, and companies compete with each other to produce the richest taste and most pleasant high. Teenagers look forward to being part of the culture, and wait (or don’t) for their birthdays, when they can smoke it with their friends or family. While a few thousand people, most of them young, die every year in marijuana-related car crashes, we do our best to teach people not to smoke before driving. It’s true that marijuana use is connected to almost half of violent crime, most of youth-related crime, and that over a million people in Canada are dependent on it, and what a shame that is. Marijuana’s just fine if you don’t abuse it … even if a majority of it is smoked while binging. It’s part of a healthy, responsible lifestyle and there’s no use demonizing it. Tobacco, on the other hand, is no good. Good thing we’ve cracked down on it.

As is probably transparent, I am not really talking about marijuana. I’m talking about society’s favorite drug. In comparison to marijuana, alcohol is more poisonous, more impairing, more addictive, more deadly–and more available, more glorified, and more widely used. If marijuana was half as destructive as alcohol, we wouldn’t think of legalizing it. But we sympathize with alcohol despite its harms, because everyone uses it. It should be pointed out, more specifically, that the reason that alcohol use is unrestricted, in contrast to other drugs, is that the people in positions of power in our society drink alcohol.

My intention in this entry isn’t to promote the legalization of marijuana. I can’t spare much sympathy for the cause of any harmful drug. But the critical issue today is alcohol. Forget guns, gangs, street drugs and even war for a moment–when it comes to body counts over the years, few preventable causes can touch alcohol. The cowardice of the adults in our society to stop indulging in a useless drug is killing people.

I want to insist again that I do not promote the prohibition of alcohol. The public policies I promote are similar to those surrounding tobacco: the requirement of graphic warnings on alcohol labels, a ban on most forms of alcohol advertising, and public funding for alcohol education programs. If you feel the same way as I do, please contact The Honourable Leona Aglukkaq, the federal Minister of Health in Canada, through this form:

http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/contact/ahc-asc/minist-eng.php

Alcohol: The Last, and Deadliest, Acceptable Drug

The UK government has considered graphic alcohol warning labels to combat

The UK government has considered graphic alcohol warning labels to combat “widespread public ignorance” on its harms.

Last week, I posted a letter to the editor of mine that had appeared in the National Post, in the midst of a discussion of the tragic rape-driven deaths of teenagers Rehtaeh Parsons in Nova Scotia and Audrie Pott in California. In both cases, the perpetrators and victims were said to be intoxicated. As I suggested in my letter, perhaps some of the blame ought to fall to all of us, who do little to curb the use of alcohol.

Somehow it didn’t surprise us when it turned out that these rapes of fifteen year-olds had happened under the influence of alcohol. In fact, 40% of violent crimes in the US are alcohol related, according to the US Department of Justice. Alcohol kills around 100,000 people in the US every year, and around 2,500,000 globally. And only a small proportion of these deaths (around 13.5%) are drunk driving deaths–the majority of alcohol deaths come from liver damage, strokes, overdose, murders, suicides, and accidents spurred by intoxication. In addition to causing death, alcohol consumption can weaken families through addiction and physical abuse, become a replacement for healthy social entertainment and reduce workplace productivity. No wonder a study published in an established medical journal labelled alcohol the fourth most harmful drug to the user, ahead of tobacco, and the most harmful drug to others, making it the most harmful drug overall:

Alcohol is the most harmful drug in the UK, according to the Lancet.

Alcohol is the most harmful drug in the UK, according to the Lancet.

I don’t want to paint too bleak a picture. Drug use has fallen in our society over the last few decades. After being awakened to the severe long-term health effects of tobacco and detrimental effects of secondhand smoke, especially on children, we’ve taken a number of bold steps to curb tobacco use. Federal and regional governments have banned most forms of tobacco advertising, mandated large warning labels on packaging, and undertaken major public health campaigns to educate people about the dangers of tobacco. Today tobacco is stigmatized, use has plummeted, and few children are raised with the assumption that cigarette use is simply a lifestyle choice. In elementary school, I was taught that if you smoked, you’d get lung cancer. Adults were very direct in telling us not to smoke. Very few people in my peer group even considered doing something so unwise.

However, we’ve all been cowards when it comes to combating alcohol, despite the fact that the social costs of alcohol fall on everyone, users and non-users alike. While certain alcohol related behaviors are stigmatized, including drunk driving and drinking while pregnant, liberal alcohol use is accepted by just about everyone. By their mid-teens, when most young people start drinking alcohol, teenagers have been exposed to casual alcohol use by their parents and other trusted adults, as well as to thousands of beer and liquor advertisements. And while most teens are likely aware of the dangers of impaired driving, they’ve probably been taught very little about alcoholism, liver damage, impaired judgment, alcohol-induced rape and violence, stroke and heart disease. How can anyone use a drug responsibly without a thorough education in its dangers?

I’ll admit my bias: as a Mormon, I don’t use alcohol, and I find it hard to sympathize with the culture surrounding it. But I’m not a radical. I emphatically do not promote the prohibition of alcohol. History teaches us that banning alcohol causes more harm than good. What I do promote are some of the same measures that have been taken to reduce tobacco use: graphic warnings on labels, severe restrictions on alcohol advertising and public health campaigns to educate everyone, especially young people, about the dangers of alcohol. These measures wouldn’t diminish the ability of responsible alcohol drinkers to purchase and use alcohol legally, but the demand for the drug would certainly fall, as would the number of crimes and deaths to which it contributes. We could expect that the alcohol industry would fight these measures, just as the tobacco industry fought similar measures in decades past.

The most realistic first step is probably mandating warnings on alcohol labels. The US federal government and a few Canadian jurisdictions already require small warnings on labels. These warnings are good, but they’re not very direct, and they’re small enough to ignore, unlike tobacco warnings. In 2005, Parliament considered a bill to require warnings across Canada, but the government fell before the bill could be taken to a vote. If you feel the same way I do, consider sending a letter to the federal Health Minister if you live in Canada, or to the FDA, Department of Health and Human Services, or your congressional representative in the US, and encourage them to promote warning labels on alcohol.

Moving Beyond a “Rape Culture”

I don’t know what’s possessing me to take sides on controversial issues lately. In lieu of a full entry, here’s a letter of mine that was printed in the National Post today:

Moving beyond a ‘rape culture’

Re: Paying the price for a ‘Hook-Up’ culture, Barbara Kay, April 11.

What defines rape culture is the act of rape itself. Rape is an abhorrent thing for which there is no excuse. The word “culture,” though, necessarily involves context.

The context of rape is boys (and men) who are used to speaking and thinking in lustful, objectifying terms. Another part of this culture is the assumption that alcohol should be part of every social gathering.

Let’s be clear: The girls who were assaulted do not deserve any blame, even if they were drinking. It is not their fault that the adults in our society told them, through words and examples, that alcohol is OK.

I believe our society will eventually have the courage to give up alcohol, like it is giving up tobacco. I believe men can learn to talk about women without talking about sex. I also believe partying can be replaced by better forms of entertainment.

But until then, I pray that the innocent will be protected — from rape and from the selfish culture that surrounds it.

http://fullcomment.nationalpost.com/2013/04/19/todays-letters-root-causes-arent-the-issue-in-boston/